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Career

Lost In Adulthood

My elder sister is a doctor and my parents are very proud of her. I, on the other hand, am a retail cashier and didn’t continue education after high school. I want to do more in my career but I don’t want to spend many years studying to become a doctor. What should I do? – Lost In Adulthood Auntieji…

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Relationships

Full-time girlfriend with a part-time boyfriend

My boyfriend’s family owns a business about five hours away, so he has to be there during their busy season (4 months). He also goes there for holidays and does some travelling for work. I don’t really feel like I get to enjoy the benefits of having a boyfriend, but he gets the benefits of having a girlfriend whenever he’s…

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Family

Wanting to shower after giving birth

When I had my first child, my in-laws named my baby while I was showering after giving birth. When I came out, I was told what the name of my child would be. I wasn’t asked or consulted and my husband didn’t say anything once his dad had made the decision. I liked the name but it would have been…

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Family, Relationships

Culture Blunder

I’m a 29-year-old man from India and my girlfriend is Caucasian. She’s my first non-Indian girlfriend and I absolutely adore her! The only problem is that I don’t think she understands my culture very well. We’ve met each other’s parents and her family is very different than mine. She can discuss just about everything with her parents, even things that…

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Family

My Grandma Thinks She’s FBI

My grandma is so nosy. She goes through my stuff when I’m not home, listens to my private conversations, asks my friends questions about my life, and is basically watching me all the time. If she knew how she’d be tracking my phone! I can’t take it anymore. She doesn’t listen to me or my parents. How do I get…

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Parenting

Worried Mom

Ever since my daughter started university, she goes out and stays out late on the weekends. I worry about her and her father strongly disapproves (he also worries). Once in a while is okay but this is every weekend. We’ve tried talking to her but it becomes a shouting match between her and her dad and I am caught in…

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Friendships

Sincerely, BFF

I’m in high school and my best friend thinks “I’ve changed” because I’ve started to wear a little makeup. I don’t think it’s had any effect on my personality and my parents don’t mind. I think she’s being unfair because she started wearing tighter clothes and caring more about her looks too! She’s been my best friend forever and I don’t want to lose her but…

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Family

Daughter-in-law in distress

Dear Auntieji, my mother-in-law doesn’t like me. She’s always trying to put me down in front of her daughters. “Why is this roti not gol [round]?”, “Why didn’t you pack my son’s lunch?” She picks on me all day. I work as a nurse and my job is quite demanding. She does not acknowledge that and I think hates me for some reason. What should I do?…

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Family

I want to be Baba Ji

Dear Auntieji, I want grandchildren but my son doesn’t want kids. He wants to travel instead of taking care of a family. He’ll want a family at some point and I’m worried it’ll be too late then. My daughter-in-law is open to having kids but my son refuses. How can I show him how important having a family is? – I…

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Family

Disappointed Dad

Dear Auntieji, my son is not who he used to be. He used to be the ideal son – caring, loving, and respectful of his parents. Since my wife and I moved to Surrey to live with him, his attitude has changed. All the love and respect has vanished. I want to go back to India but what will I…

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